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Re: kol isha in action
- From: Bob Wiener <wiener...>
- Subject: Re: kol isha in action
- Date: Fri 21 Feb 2003 17.43 (GMT)
Lor (at) Max
It seems to me that if a meal is part of the even, especially if the simcha
involves a seudat mitzvah ("mitzvah meal") the early departure solution
typically creates the following problem:
Presence through the birkat hamazon ("grace after meals") (including, for
example, sheva brachot -- special additional blessings for a wedding) is a
basic part of the simcha/mitzvah.
Bob
BTW, Avi, my third suggestion was made in an effort to achieve respectful
conciliation and not as a joke to be laughed at.
----- Original Message -----
From: MaxwellSt (at) aol(dot)com
To: World music from a Jewish slant
Sent: Friday, February 21, 2003 11:15 AM
Subject: Re: kol isha in action
In a message dated 2/21/2003 10:07:21 AM Central Standard Time, lkoenick (at)
erols(dot)com writes:
Why is there "uncomfortness" more important that the uncomfortness of those
who oppose it or are subjected to the discrimination?
This is a discussion that comes up annually--maybe it would be good to
archive it for the benefit of those who want to see past discussions.
I submit--as a woman who was not raised in an Orthodox home or with those
sensibilities--that it is no more discriminatory to respect Kol Isha at a mixed
gathering than to serve kosher food. Unless we wish to drive out all the Jews
who observe halacha from our simchas, we can't put out a large Unwelcome mat in
the form of violations of the law.
A workable solution, I think, is to observe Kol Isha for the first 2 hours of
the simcha, and then to permit it (and mixed dancing)--telling the frum guests
in advance that this will be the format. The frum guests will have a chance to
eat and fulfill their mitzvah of dancing at the simcha before leaving, and the
non-Orthodox will have their wishes respected in the latter half. This is the
way we do most of our "mixed" simchas.
Lori (at) Max
- Re: kol isha in action, (continued)