[HANASHIR:5935] Re: Funerals

[Rabbi Richard Schachet <lvrabbi...>]

Although, to cry is good, let me share what I have done-  and unfortunately
I have buried mom, dad, brother, nephew  and aunt--

I literally step out of my role as son or brother or nephew when I do the
service or eulogy-- when the service is over-- or my part is over, I then go
back to my role as the relative.

Interesting-- when I am there, people call me "Rabbi"-- Then they go back to
calling me "Dick."
They want to see me as "The Rabbi" when I am in that role.

any other thoughts from others in this situation.


Rabbi Richard Schachet
Valley Outreach Synagogue
www.valleyoutreach.com
----- Original Message -----
From: Andy Curry <acurry (at) CellNet(dot)com>
To: <hanashir (at) shamash(dot)org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 03, 2000 8:18 AM
Subject: [HANASHIR:5933] Re: Funerals


> Why would you want to distance yourself from your emotions?  It's OK to
> schrei at a funeral, even if you're the chazzan.
>
> With respect,
> Andy
>
> At 01:58 PM 5/3/00 +0200, you wrote:
> >I just returned from singing a very difficult funeral.  It was hard
because
> >it was small and most of the family members, including the small
> >grandchildren, were sobbing.  While it has always been difficult for me,
> >it's worse now that my mother has died, to hold back the tears when I see
> >others grieving.
> >
> >Has anyone found any good methods for distancing from your emotions when
> >participating in a service?
> >
> >Janet Pape
> >janet(dot)pape (at) iea(dot)org <mailto:janet(dot)pape (at) iea(dot)org>
> >Cantorial Soloist,
> >Kehilat Gesher, Paris
>
> Andy Curry
> 6016 Holmes St
> Kansas City MO 64110-3034
> Home: (816)363-8381
> Work: (913)312-4739
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>
>

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