[HANASHIR:11916] Re: Help for infant's funeral

[Scott Shuster <scott_shuster...>]

Hello Rabbi Schachet,

I can understand your difficult position of trying to find the right
words to say at such a time.

Below is a song I wrote over the course of several years which does
just that.  I've added verses to it as people in my life have passed
away.  At my mother's funeral I asked the Rabbi to recite because I
wasn't in any position to sing it myself.

Please feel free to use it, or any piece of it.


Scott Shuster




                      "TENDER YEARS"

                      Scott Shuster


         E                           G#-
When you have a lust for living, the cost is oh so high
          F#-                         A                 B7
When it's time to pay the price, when it's your turn to die
        E                                        G#-    B      C#-
It's so hard to say the right thing when all you can do is ask 'Why?'
           A                          F#-            B7
But you'll never get an answer as you look up in the sky


        E              A           E                 A
Take my hand, touch me here, be my friend, and be my dear
        G#-           F#-               B        B7
Feel my sorrow and together we'll share tears.
        E           A             E                     A
Lift me up, help me cope, give me strength, and give me hope
        F#-     G#-           A     B      E      Esus  E
Help me make it through these oh so tender years.


You may wish it never happened, and you'll probably deny
But you know that it's impossible to turn back the hands of time
We can learn from this experience so that he hasn't died in vain
As we focus on the future, and try to dull our pain

(repeat chorus: "Take my hand...")

She was much too young to leave us
But it took her anyway
'Cause it just doesn't discriminate on who or where it stays
She'll live on forever, in my heart she will remain
But I wish that she were next to me, alive and A.O.K.

(repeat chorus: "Take my hand...")

Life is oh so fragile, so for granted don't you take
As a little girl won't have the chance to make her own mistakes.
So cherish every moment, and teach them all you know
And give them all the values, to live and learn and grow.







--- Rabbi Richard Schachet <lvrabbi (at) lvcm(dot)com> wrote:
> I just got a call from a member-  His daughter, who I knew but not
> well, had had a miscarriage at 20 weeks.  While she was in the throws
> of the miscarriage and before it actually happened, they called my
> and I went to the hospital and, of course, offered a misha berach.
> 
> Yesterday the actual miscarriage occurred   I just received a call
> that they want a funeral.  
> 
> I've never had this situation... I know that normally, there should
> not even be a funeral and no shiva, but apparantly the young woman
> (Jewish)  and her Christian fiance' need some closure.  The eulogy
> was easy enough using King David's story-  but does anyone have any
> suggestions for readings, prayers, psalms etc.  Funeral is tomorrow
> afternoon (Monday) at 4:00 P.M. in the children's section of a local
> mortuary.
> 
> HELP!!!!!!
> 
> 
> Rabbi  Richard Schachet
> Valley Outreach Synagogue
> www.valleyoutreach.com
> 
> "The past has a vote, not a veto"
> Mordecai Kaplan, z'l
> 


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